Author: joshuaebishop
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They Didn’t Get It—That’s on Me
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Here’s Something to Think About… Fallacy of the Week:“If someone misunderstands me, I’ve failed to communicate well.” What’s Really Happening:We often carry the weight of both clarity and outcome—as if it’s our job not just to speak truthfully, but also to make sure it lands perfectly. That’s an exhausting (and…
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It’s Not That Big of a Deal—I’ll Just Let It Go
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Here’s Something to Think About… Fallacy of the Week:“Bringing it up will just make things harder. I’ll get over it.” What’s Really Happening:We downplay what matters to avoid awkward moments. But silence isn’t neutral—it takes something from us over time. We might avoid one hard conversation, but we trade clarity,…
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They Needed the Truth—So I Gave It to ’em
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Here’s Something to Think About… Fallacy of the Week:“If it’s true and I’m upset, it’s okay to just say it.” What’s Really Happening:When emotions spike, clarity often drops. And when truth is delivered without care, it usually causes more damage than growth. Reacting is easy. Communicating with intention takes maturity.…
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I Know Exactly What They Meant
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Here’s Something to Think About… Fallacy of the Week:“I know what they meant—I could tell by their tone.” What’s Really Happening:We often interpret tone, body language, or wording through the filter of our own emotion and experience. But assumptions are dangerous territory. What we think someone meant isn’t always what…
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If I Don’t Speak, Nothing Gets Fixed
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Here’s Something to Think About… Fallacy of the Week:“If I don’t say something, nothing will change.” What’s Really Happening:We often rush to speak, explain, or fix—thinking our words will repair the situation. But over-talking can crowd out understanding. Sometimes the most impactful thing you can do is listen without preparing…
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Honesty Means Saying Whatever I Want
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Here’s Something to Think About… Fallacy of the Week:“If it’s true, I should just say it. It’s not my fault if they can’t handle it.” What’s Really Happening:Truth without compassion is just aggression with a moral badge. When we confuse bluntness with boldness, we damage trust—and justify it with “honesty.”…
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Confrontation Is Cruel
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Here’s Something to Think About… Fallacy of the Week:“I don’t want to bring it up—it’ll just cause tension.” What’s Really Happening:We often mistake confrontation for conflict. But avoiding a needed conversation doesn’t preserve peace—it preserves the problem. Over time, what you don’t say weighs more than what you do. A…
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Politeness Over Clarity
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Here’s Something to Think About… Fallacy of the Week:“I didn’t want to come off as harsh, so I softened it… a lot.” What’s Really Happening:In the name of being nice, we often blur our message. We drop hints, hedge, or talk in circles—hoping the other person will pick up what…
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Avoidance Feels Kinder
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Here’s Something to Think About… Fallacy of the Week:“It’s better to say nothing than risk making things awkward.” What’s Really Happening:We tell ourselves we’re being polite, but more often, we’re just avoiding discomfort. Silence feels safe—but it can quietly grow resentment, confusion, or tension under the surface. A Better Way:Awkwardness…
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The Pattern Illusion
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Here’s Something to Think About… Fallacy of the Week:“I just am the way I am. My communication style can’t change.” What’s Really Happening:We often think our communication habits are personality traits. But they’re not—they’re patterns we learned through years of repetition. That’s the good news: if they’re learned, they can…